Turning 30. 

By the end of this year, I’m going to turn 30. It’s safe to say that I’m supposed to be an adult by then and with that comes absolut panic.

From the age of 30 to 35 a lot is expected from you. You’re meant to fall in love and get married. You’re also expected to have a kid, or at least planning on having one in the near future because you know you’re biological clock is ticking away… And if that wasn’t bad enough, you’ve finally gotta work out what the hell you wanna do with your life. How do you wanna spend your time? What is the thing that will define you?

I know this is a lot to think about and sure, you can complete any of these things at whatever age you want, but there is this unwritten pressure to fulfill at least one of said things by the time you turn 30. Which leaves me with 8 months to get my shit together really.

To be honest, I have no idea where I’m gonna be living in 5 years, or where I’m even gonna be in 5 years. I have no idea if I’m married by then or have a kid. Maybe I would have outgrown my pale chaotic phase and I blossomed into a tough business woman.

I suppose it’s important to not get bugged down by all these things because in pursuit of all these milestones, you’ve got to live.

I hope I get married someday, I hope I’ll have a kid, I hope I’ll find my dream career, I hope I’ll build my own happy place. But I just hope that happens naturally. And not because life is putting pressure on me. ♥

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10 comments

  1. hahahahah It’s exactly what I think about. Just to let you know I became 30 last month and nothing changed. Fuck the rest and live your life as never did before! S2

  2. Speaking from the other side of 30, no one has their shit together. I do think it’s important to have an idea of what you want your life to look like. If you want to get married, then do something to work towards that (like go on a date). If you want a career but don’t know where to start, talk to someone – I utilized a career counselor during my quarter-life crisis and it was one of the best decisions ever.

    Regardless of what you want, don’t let anyone make you feel bad for not conforming to their expectations of you. Only you can decide what’s best for you. If that means not having children for another 5 years, so be it. It’s no one else’s business but yours.

    (as an aside, I loved turning 30 – the pressure of being a “20-something” was lifted and I felt more confident in myself.)

    I hope you find a happy balance in your 30s! =)

  3. I’ve learnt to trust in time – I’m 41 and that sounds old but now I’m here it feels like I’m just beginning. In my 30s I had a career, marriage and 3 kids and now I’ve started to work again in my 40’s doing something I love. Before kids you can work hard to get the basis of a good career, travel, hang out with friends, spend your weekends the way you want and spend your money on yourself (or save!). Marriage, children…that will all come when you’re ready otherwise you won’t do it right. We are healthier and fitter than any generation before us and your generation will be pushing the boundaries of age and living longer than ever before. Keep true to yourself and remember – age really is just a number. x

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